Paulina Porizkova quoted Pink’s 2017 VMA’s acceptance speech directed at her daughter to inspire some self-love in her followers. To start the new year and the new decade, the supermodel wanted to remind people to be kind to themselves. Especially for those who are aiming to work on their insecurities this year, inspirational messages from women they idolize can go a long way.
The 54-year-old supermodel posted a makeup-free photo of herself on Instagram. The photo was raw and unfiltered, and Porizkova admitted that she thinks she looks old and unattractive in the photo. In the caption that follows, she calls out our collective need for validation from others, which leads us to only show our perfect selves, even if that means we have to edit it. She reminds her followers that looking for tips and secrets on how to achieve “perfect” beauty isn’t self-love, and only presenting one’s filtered self on social media is not self-improvement.
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Today narcissism is king and constant self-improvement is queen. Who wants to see “real” people on social media? No, we want aspirational. We want tips and secrets and shortcuts to how best present ourselves in the most glowing light. We want people to envy us, to copy us, to buy what we sell them, whether it’s our words, our brands, torture or magic. In this crowded forrest of aspirations, I look for the little meadows of peace. To me, those are the truthful ones, the ones that don’t always look amazing, and don’t always feel amazing, and aren’t just so fucking thrilled to be their awesome selves. So, this is what I really look like. Not a great photo, early in the morning, no make up no filters, just the real true me. I’ll be turning 55 soon. At first glance, I think – ew. I look so old. Grief is certainly no beauty maker. My eyelids are starting to droop. The jowly bits next to my mouth don’t only make me look older but also somehow bitter. The gray in my hair is an easy fix, although, honestly, I’d love to just grow it out and stop coloring. Now, how can I help to make all this -what we consider flaws – to be seen differently, to be seen as confidence and beauty of a mature age rather than something that needs to be eliminated? I used to think gray hair was aging, that it was a sign of giving in to being old, but thanks to many glorious and rocking hot women on Instagram, I’ve changed my vision to gray hair being sexy and confident. @themiddleagedgoddess @annikavonholdt There was a quote by @pink to her little daughter, about how it was not for them to fix themselves to fit the standards of beauty, but rather to help other people discover their beauty. Now, that is something to strive for. Not change yourself to fit in the box, but to blow up the fucking box. I’d like to end this post with a rousing “ let’s blow up the fucking box, ladies”, but although I really want to, and will try my best, the truth is that I am a mid-fifties woman, I’m vain and insecure, and next week I could decide to have surgical help to fit the comfortable and warm and familiar box instead of crusading to blow it up. #selfie #truth #beauty #sexyhasnoagelimit#blowupthefuckingbox
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In her post, she references Pink’s VMA’s speech in 2017. The singer dedicated her time on air to tell the story of her daughter who believed that she was the ugliest person she knew. People were teasing her and telling her that she looks like a boy with long hair. In response, Pink showed a PowerPoint presentation of androgynous looking rock stars who inspire people every day. She reminded her daughter that these notions that someone looks too masculine or too feminine are absurd, and we should be teaching people to accept different definitions of beauty.
This story really echoed with Porizkova. She shared that she has been feeling ugly because she’s growing older. She admits to focusing on her drooping eyelids, some jowly bits, and her grey hair. With inspiration from other older models, Porizkova is gaining more confidence to rock her grey hair.
Porizkova’s post is also real and grounded because she admits that she still feels the need to fit into the comfortable box of society’s beauty standards. Her journey to self-love will have some bumps on the road, and she even said that due to her vanity and insecurities, she could decide to have surgical help one day. However, she wishes to remind her followers that even though the journey isn’t smooth, we should still take steps towards loving our authentic selves.